Comments on Don't Feed the Animals: Anecdotes About Expectations

I agree with the honesty, but something has to be ...

2009-12-20T05:08:44.672-05:00

I agree with the honesty, but something has to be said for the guy or girl that has been honestly and efficiently put in the friend zone who still continues to try for more than friends. I seem to encounter this guy a lot no matter how honest I am with them.

My friends tell me the same thing, but whenever th...

2009-12-16T21:54:09.030-05:00

My friends tell me the same thing, but whenever the thought fleets across my mind in the beginning I shove it away, because really, who wants to be told "you're just going to be a friend"--as if they were going to try something at all? And then, unfortunately, when the time REALLY comes that I need to say it, it always seems that it came too late...

the case with the girl being flown over was distinct, though, she could have easily said something that showed her true intentions.

Ah, the friend zone. I think getting stuck in the ...

2009-12-16T00:37:54.247-05:00

Ah, the friend zone. I think getting stuck in the kid sister zone is even worse. There's no chance of a drunken hook up with that one AT ALL.

As far as expectations go, I agree about being honest from the get-go and easing up on crazy love proclamations. Not all guys who end up in the friend zone stay there forever. Plus, you never know what can happen when you lay off the pressure and let the other person get comfortable...

P.S. I'm interested to know what else you've got on the relationship advice front.

How can you lay the rules out up front if you don&...

2009-12-16T00:33:56.887-05:00

How can you lay the rules out up front if you don't know them? I mean, no one really wants to say "don't even try it" if there's a possibility that they could end up really liking the person, right?

Generally, though, and I think this is true with guys and girls, I don't understand why people assume that interest from a member of the opposite sex indicates romantic interest... I don't tend to distinguish much between guys and girls in terms of friendships, so if I meet someone I like, I'm not too shy about it - unfortunately, this often comes across as being interested in a guy "like that" and then it's a whole world of trouble! As you described!